I couldve employed a lot of assist when I turned 18 and went off to college.Ive made a lot of mistakes and memories since then, and I often think back to who I was four years ago and wonder how I attained it through everything.
There were good times, there were bad times, days that constructed me feel alive, periods that constructed me topic everything and hours that ultimately forced me to grow up.
Im thankful for these periods because theyve taught me valuable lessons, but there are days I wish I knew these lessons beforehand so I wouldnt have had to go through the ache of learning them.
Im 22 years old now and Im living a life I never couldve imagined for myself.If I could go back in time, Id tell myself these seven things 😛 TAGEND
1. Freshman year of college is going to be a nightmare.
And thats putting it mildly.
Youre going to stimulate lots of new friends and youre going to lose some. Youre going to think that taking 10 shoots of vodka to get drunk for the first time is a good idea, and youll be wrong.
Youll also be wrong about who you sleep with. As much as you want them to be right for you, nine hours out of 10, they wont be. But please, dont let them destroy you for too long because its not your fault.
Apart from that, youll dye your hair red and go running through the sprinklers at 2 am just because and itll be the most fun you ever had.
2. Some friendships wont last forever, but thats OK.
I know itll seem sad when the best friends you had in high school arent your friends anymore. If Im being honest, the loss of those friendships will still sting occasionally, but eventually youll accept the fact that things will never be the same.
Youre going to do so much growing up in the coming years, youll grow apart from people you thought would be there for you forever and you will change. Not everyone will like or want to be a part of that change, and thats OK.
The people who really matter will stay by you through thick and thin, and those are the lasting friendships you want.
3. Examining abroad will be the best period of your life.
Enjoy the baguettes and Nutella while you can, because that semester will fly by a little faster than you want it to.
Youll spend your nights in tavern after drinking inexpensive bottles of wine, and youll kiss random strangers whose speeches you wont quite understand.
Youll fall in love with the cities of Italy, spend a week with your family in Switzerland and reunite with your freshman-year roommate in Scotland.
Some of the best nights will be with your best friend, eating pasta and watching every rom-com imaginable. Youll come home after five months realizing that everything is the same as how you left it and because of this, youre going to dislike America for a while. Dont worry, it does get better.
4. Unrequited love is its own kind of hell.
Unfortunately, youre going to become quite the pro at liking men who dont end up liking you back. There are going to be many, many men that come and go over the next four years, so dont take anything too personally when those relationships aim. Youll eventually learn that you were seeking the wrong guys at the incorrect time.
After you graduate, youre going to meet someone on New Years Eve and hell be different than all the remainder. Hell make you believe in the sorcery of beginnings again. One very important piece of advice: Dont fall in love with him.
When you fall in love for the first time, it should be with someone whos going to fall in love with you too. You wont get what you want from him, so do your best to leave the memories of him in the past and be grateful he taught you how to open upagain.
5. After you graduate, your world will fall apart for a little bit.
Youre going to feel lost for a while, because no matter how many times you tell people you accommodate well to change, deep down you know its a lie.
Youll be scared of what happened next, and youll have a grand idea for how you want their own lives to turn out. Please dont hold onto that notion too tightly because almost nothing will happen the route you expect it to.Having too many ideas and no actual style of turning them into a realitywill be overwhelming, and youll only disillusion yourself in the long run.
Do your best to not let your expectations for life get the better of you because youre going to make it the working day. Youll get to do the things that you want, so dont fret too much about the style things play out. Theyend up alright in the end.
6. A bad day in New York City is still better than a good day anywhere else.
Do you want the harsh truth? Moving to New York is going to be the hardest thing youll ever do, even though its also the very best decision youll ever make for yourself.
Youll question why you came, youll doubt how qualified or ready you are to be here and youll hold going back home to Texas because that would be the easy and painless option.
Staying and procuring an apartment and job will be incredibly stressful and tiresome, but I promise you youll laugh about it in six months.
Whenever youre feeling defeated, itll help to look up at the Empire State Building. One glance of that building on your commute to run every morning sets everything back into perspective, I promise.
7. Prepare yourself for a wild ride.
Youre going to do so many crazy, reckless, beautiful, impulsive, careless, stupid and messy things on your route to growing up.
Youll expend some nights exclaiming yourself to sleep, and some nights youll be too drunk to make it out of your bedroom door. The best nights, though, will be spend sitting up on the roof watching shooting stars or going out for a night on the town with your friends and being perfectly and incandescently happy.
Its not always going to be easy, but whatever happens is going to be worth it.
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