The first 18 years of life are a time to take everything in. Were encouraged to figure ourselves out. Elementary school, secondary school and high school provide us with opportunities to test the waters in a variety of areas.
Senior year of high school reaches, college applications and adoptions return as well as adults start falling that topic. You know, the one no one has a real provide answers to, What do you want to do?
Sure, half the time high school students reply with uncertainty and thats OK. Theyre 17 and 18 years old, they get a little leeway.
But, in the blink of an eye your college experience is nearing its end and you have to actually answer that dreaded question. The impending doom of the real world slowly begin to creep its route up to you.
Many of us craft genuinely intricate ideas for our future. I want to work on Wall Street, or I want to be a lawyer are two incredible aspirations, and while not all will achieve these goals, many will.
Now, the question isnt about who can and who cant. The focus should be on answering a question of actual important: Will I be happy doing this?
Its so easy to convince ourselves that something is for the better. Were astounding at telling ourselves something is worth doing, even ifwe detest it. Working on Wall Street, 80 hours a week, is plainly worth it for that kind of money, right?
For some, that lifestyle is the ultimate dreaming come true. Their 20 s are for running and setting up their future, and happiness will work its route in during the process. If it appears good on a resume, sounds good to say and brings in the dough, then hell yeah, its the fucking trifecta.
But if there is any apparent truth that comes with the reality we, its that money isnt everything. Graduating college with a great degree and diving head first into the adult-world that weve feared for so long is amazing. But, do you have to come out with a job that leaves others in awe?
Think about this situation: Every step in your life up to college is in preparation for your future. In college, you chose you wanted to be a doctor because you like science and you like helping people, so obviously you were meant to be one.
By 21 youre sick of school, bust your ass to get good grades and when its finally over you realise you still have to get through med school and your residency. Is being a doctor still worth it?
Being a doctor is an amazing accomplishment, but “ve been through” years of school to ultimately be an unhappy professional worth it?
I grew up in a relatively well-off community, surrounded by an overwhelming amount of professionals and highly successful people. The obvious track to follow was one that had already been laid out.
Money served as a major influence on my interests. I had my eye set on being a business human, just like my father and his friends. So naturally, I chose my future was that of a banker. It had fund, numbers and all the other great banking stuff I was in search of.
Best of all, it sounded great. Adults loved to hear that I wanted to be in finance and working on Wall street; they loved to tell me their narratives and share insight about the world of banking.
My future was set.Or so I thought.
After enduring the experiences of transferring schools, heartbreak and depression, my outlook on life changed. For a long time, I was unhappy. I knew a decent sum of knowledge on a bunch of random things but I didnt know how to be happy.
These experiences forced me to ask myself topics. I had to sit and think about my future, wondering how I could be happy and successful. After a while, I knew I needed a change. I required a change in my thinking, my actions and my vision for the future.
I decided the summer before my junior year of college would be for me. I needed a step back from reality and the pressures of a 20 -something. I searched for an escape from my highly depressive environment.
SoI ran retail at Lululemons flagship store in NYC. I chose to spend my summertime folding and hang clothes, cleaning up customers messes and selling stretchy pants.
My summer didnt strengthen my resume in any unique style , nor did it directly set me up for a successful career post-college.
But working at Lululemon was revolutionary for me.It exposed me to a world I had never before experienced and placed me in an environment with people from all walkings of life.
After my first day of training for Lululemon, I had an epiphany.
I strolled into that store with the goal of self-improvement. I wanted to overcome the vulnerability I once felt and to alleviate stress and nervousnes. Most of all, I needed to learn how to love myself. I dreamt of happiness.
Six hours later, when I walked out of that store, my world was different.I had no desire to be a banker.For the first time in my life, I had no career plan for my future. Starting that summertime evening, I had a redefined understanding of life: Happiness, above all else, is the key to success.
While working there, my intellect was clear of pessimism, and I was less agitated and stressed by the basic downfalls of daily life. My familial relationships improved and for the first time in a long time, I felt in control of my life and well-being.
For the first 20 years of life, I was under the impression I knew who I was. I had a clear vision of myself and a plan for my future, and nothing could stray me from that path.I was convinced everything was a stepping stone in reaching success.
Sadly, I supposed success was defined by a college education, your career and the extent of your wealth. I always set my vision of a successful life before that of a happy one.
I slowly learned that if you cant smile, you cant truly be successful. The best part about this is that being happy is a option, we all have the ability to craft our own lives.
If happiness is the ultimate key to success( I believe it is) then thats what a vision of your future should reflect. If you dont truly understand who you are and you dont accept it, happiness will always be forced.
Ask yourself questions and dont be afraid to dig deeper, because only then will you truly find yourself.
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